We all have our complaints about the modern dating scene. But in some cities, meeting “the one” can practically feel like an impossible task.
Although San Francisco is a vibrant, bustling city, it’s also a uniquely difficult place to find a long term partner. With over 7 million people in SF’s Bay Area, it’s easy to assume that anyone looking for love would have no trouble finding someone to partner up with.
Unfortunately, the reality isn’t so rosy. Anyone who has chosen to settle down in San Francisco knows that it’s wildly expensive; residents tend to hold exceptionally busy schedules; using dating apps feels like a necessity, not an option; and the skewed gender ratio means that there are more single men than single women.
Let’s face it, dating in San Francisco compared to other regions of the US is like playing a video game on expert mode.
But you don’t have to navigate the labyrinth alone. In a city like San Francisco, working with a relationship professional can help you find the romance you’ve been searching for.
Here’s why you need a dating and relationship therapist to completely revolutionize your love life.
1. You Want to Get Past the First Date
Are you stuck in a cycle of endless first dates? Maybe you have no problem scoring an invite to dinner or drinks. Yet, when you reach out to plan a second date, you don’t get the enthusiastic reply you had hoped for.
Then, you’re on to the next first date with someone else—and this seems to continue for months on end.
It’s like a new potential partner is only ever a swipe away in San Francisco, so it’s not uncommon for any first date butterflies to fizzle out quickly if one person picks up on a flaw early on. After all, someone a little better could be out there, and moving on fast is almost too easy.
A dating coach can help you figure out why you’re not getting that coveted second date. Yet sometimes, you need a third party to tell you why you’re facing the same obstacles over and over again. A relationship therapist can help you honestly explore why you’re getting stuck in repetitive relatioinship patterns.
2. You’re Tired of Meeting “Unavailables”
Pursuing people who are emotionally unavailable is not exclusively a problem for single people seeking partners in San Francisco. However, it does seem like it’s a pervasive issue here.
You may have fallen for someone who was always tied up with work and traveling for business, leaving them with little to no time for a relationship. Perhaps you’ve had feelings for someone who was still caught up with their “ex” or someone who was so wrapped up in their own personal drama that they never wanted to listen when you were having a rough day.
By working with a dating and relationship therapist, you can get to the root of why you’re attracted to emotionally unavailable people.
Sometimes, we mirror the behavior we saw in our parents. And sometimes, we do this because we’re still guarded and scared of real intimacy. Either way, a dating and relationship therapist can help get to the bottom of it.
3. You Don’t Want to Be Stuck in the Same Pattern
Ever feel like your love life is a little like the movie Groundhog Day? Maybe you’re tired of living out the same scenario over and over again.
In a city like San Francisco, it’s understandable if you get discouraged and think, “Ugh, all my relationships play out the same.” But it doesn’t have to be this way. We’re often blind to our own patterns until someone else points them out. Luckily, that’s basically the job description for a dating and relationship therapist.
If you find yourself playing out the same relationship with the same type of partner again and again, but deep down you know they’re all wrong for you, a relationship therapist can help you get out of that rut. It’s time to meet someone who’s not at all the same!
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