Intimacy is a crucial part of any relationship.
Having an active sex life with your partner makes you both feel wanted and loved. The chemical reactions that occur in your brain and body when you’re intimate with each other help you maintain a strong bond.
But when things slow down in the bedroom, and you find yourselves going weeks or even months without doing much besides cuddling, you might begin to feel like your relationship is on the rocks. If you’re frustrated by the lack of sex and intimacy in your relationship, figuring out the reason for the dry spell is the first step to fixing the issue.
Here are a few factors that may be getting in the way of sex.
Time
How much free time do you and your partner actually spend together? Do you have a few hours of alone time each day? Or are you spending most of your day focused on work, childcare, and domestic responsibilities?
Sometimes a lack of time is the biggest obstacle for sexual intimacy. You may need to think about how you can prioritize more time with your partner. Creating room in your schedule for romance is worth it!
Health
Have you been treating your body well? Is your partner taking care of their health?
If either you or your partner are dealing with health issues, this can cause a drop in libido. But getting back on track to a healthier lifestyle is a journey you can go on together. You may want to start by getting a gym membership, cooking some nutritious new recipes, or going running together.
Hormonal Issues
Sometimes, hormonal imbalances can cause a drop in your desire for intimacy. If you suspect that you or your partner are dealing with hormonal issues, now is the time to consult with a doctor for tests. And from there, you can make a plan for healing.
This might mean trying a new birth control method, adjusting your diet, or taking certain supplements. When it comes to a hormonal imbalance, it is best to seek professional medical advice. Walking that extra mile is in your best interest.
Stress
Stress can have a serious impact on relationships. Have you been dealing with major stress lately? Or is your partner under a lot of stress? If so, this could be the prime explanation for the loss of intimacy in your relationship.
Lamentably, if it goes unaddressed, it can drive a wedge between the two of you. To avoid this outcome, you and your partner need to talk about what is stressing you out. By creating understanding, both of you can think of ways to support each other and alleviate the stress in your lives.
Lack of Affection
Intimacy isn’t just about sex. What if you and your partner have just put affection and romance on the back burner? Maybe it happened gradually, or maybe it happened because of a fight or another difficult challenge you faced.
If this is the case, talk to each other about how you can both make an effort to be more romantic and affectionate. Perhaps you could plan more date nights, or you could surprise each other in adorable ways. Simply turning up the romance can help you feel that affection and attraction toward each other once again. And as you feel more positively about your relationship again, your sexual intimacy will also get a boost.
Are you and your partner wondering how to get the spark back into the bedroom?
The thought of talking to a therapist about such an intimate subject may sound intimidating, but relationship therapy can help you get to the root of your issues and revive your attraction to each other. Please, reach out to discuss how I can help you.