Why do we feel an immediate spark with some people and not others? This article explores what romantic chemistry may be telling us—and what it can't tell us about a potential relationship.

Many people struggle with the dilemma of liking someone, but not feeling strong romantic chemistry. Is this a problem? Are there are any solutions to this confusing experience? What kinds of chemistry can we look for when dating?

Have you ever met someone and felt a strong, curiously compelling attraction? Sometimes we're drawn to someone long before we understand why. Discerning what we’re drawn to can give us more freedom to choose between how much chemistry/attraction and how much compatibility we want.

A lot of people reach out for support at a point where dating has started to feel confusing, discouraging, or just plain exhausting because something about the experience keeps repeating. My approach to dating helps you learn where you get stuck and what patterns you may have been repeating, unconsciously.

One of the most important distinctions in dating — and one that many people were never taught — is the difference between attraction and availability. Attraction can feel powerful and meaningful, but it isn’t the sign you think it is. Do you know the right signs to follow?

Chemistry, on its own, is a surprisingly unreliable guide when it comes to building a healthy, lasting relationship. Most of us were never taught how to tell the difference between chemistry of genuine connection and chemistry of nervous system activation. And in modern dating culture that distinction matters more than ever.