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Bart Hatler, MFT, San Francisco, California

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Little Lessons On Growing Love

San Francisco’s Best Advice About Creating Amazing Relationships And All Things RELATED

Bart Hatler
October 13, 2024
Dating

3 Spiritual Psychology Tips for Dating

Bart Hatler
October 13, 2024
Dating

Have you ever wondered why, even after learning dating tips and reading dating books, you keep ending up in the same laundry cycle with dates and relationships?  Here are a few dating tips from a Spiritual Psychology point of view.

Bart Hatler
April 18, 2020
Dating

The Science of Attraction: The Chemistry of Physical Attraction (How Important Is It?)

Bart Hatler
April 18, 2020
Dating

Imagine yourself sitting in a coffee shop with one of your friends and you catch a glimpse of the person who walks in. You just can’t help but notice how attractive they are. Do you ever wonder what’s really going through your head during those moments?

Bart Hatler
March 14, 2020
Couples

7 Essential Elements of a Healthy Relationship

Bart Hatler
March 14, 2020
Couples

Here are a few essential elements of every happy relationship. You and your partner might approach them in your own unique way, but if you’ve been feeling like something is “missing” in your relationship, it could be on this list!

Bart Hatler
March 7, 2020
Couples, Dating, EFT

What Does Your Enneagram Type Have to Do with Your Relationship?

Bart Hatler
March 7, 2020
Couples, Dating, EFT

Wondering how your personal enneagram type is affecting your relationships? Trying to figure out who you are most compatible with and how to improve your love life?

Bart Hatler
February 29, 2020
Dating

The Happiness Effect of Social Media

Bart Hatler
February 29, 2020
Dating

Social media has totally revolutionized this concept and made it possible for us to stay readily connected with loved ones every single day. How can this affect you?

Bart Hatler
February 9, 2020
Dating

The Science of Attraction: Exploring the Chemistry Behind Romantic Allure

Bart Hatler
February 9, 2020
Dating

Should chemistry be the all important factor we have made it out to be when looking for a partner? Here's what’s actually happening in your brain during the attraction phase, when you’re spending time with someone that you just can’t stop thinking about.

Bart Hatler
January 15, 2020
Dating

Dating in the City vs. Dating in the Burbs: Pros and Cons to Looking for Love Outside of San Francisco

Bart Hatler
January 15, 2020
Dating

Life in San Francisco seems to move at a mile a minute. The idea of going on dates with a couple of different people over the course of one weekend and bouncing between several social gatherings on a Saturday night seems pretty normal.

Bart Hatler
January 8, 2020
Dating

Romantic Relationships Are NOT the Key to Happiness! -- 5 Ways to Be Happily Single

Bart Hatler
January 8, 2020
Dating

When you’re single, you might find yourself looking around and seeing nothing but happy couples. But is romantic love really the pinnacle of happiness? Here are five ways to be happily single and embrace the art of flying solo.

Bart Hatler
January 1, 2020
Dating, EFT

Dating Intelligence: How Knowing Your Attachment Style Could Be an Advantage

Bart Hatler
January 1, 2020
Dating, EFT

Your attachment style describes, predicts and makes sense of how you relate to others in dating and intimate relationships. Here’s how knowing your attachment style can help you find the right person.

Bart Hatler
December 27, 2019
Dating

What’s Your Dating Intelligence Quotient (D-IQ)?

Bart Hatler
December 27, 2019
Dating

Do you know how you score on a D-IQ (Intelligence Quotient for Dating) test? Here are some basic dating tips to help you with your D-IQ. 

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Jul 4, 2025
Dating Problems Aren’t Always About Strategy—They’re About Psychology
Jul 4, 2025

If you’ve read all the dating tips, downloaded every app, and feel like you’re doing everything “right”—but still find yourself stuck, frustrated, or hurt—you’re not alone.

Jul 4, 2025
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Jun 20, 2025
What If We Keep Having the Same Argument?
Jun 20, 2025

You’ve had this argument before—maybe ten, maybe a hundred times. One of you gets triggered. The other reacts. Then things spiral—again…

Jun 20, 2025
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Jun 6, 2025
If You Don’t Set Relationship Principles, Anti-Principles Will Run the Show
Jun 6, 2025

Most couples don’t actively decide how they want to treat each other. But here’s the problem: if you don’t create relationship principles on purpose, anti-principles will take over.

Jun 6, 2025
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May 30, 2025
What Am I Doing Wrong? I'm So Frustrated With My Dating Life
May 30, 2025

If you’ve ever stared at your phone, replaying a confusing message—or no message at all—and thought, What am I doing wrong?, you’re not alone…

May 30, 2025
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May 16, 2025
Is It Too Late to Save Our Relationship?
May 16, 2025

“I think we waited too long.” But here’s the thing I’ve seen again and again in couples therapy most of the time, it’s not too late. It’s just that the old strategies have stopped working, and no new ones have taken their place—yet.

May 16, 2025
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Apr 18, 2025
What Do We Do When One Person Wants Sex and the Other Doesn’t?
Apr 18, 2025

One partner wants sex or wants it more often. The other doesn’t feel ready, interested, or safe enough to connect that way in the moment, or for longer.  But it doesn’t have to be a make or break issue for the relationship.

Apr 18, 2025
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Dec 16, 2024
Getting Through The Holidays Unscathed
Dec 16, 2024

While the happiest time of the year it may be for some, unfortunately, the holidays can also bring up a lot for many of us. Whether it's visiting family, getting pulled into old roles and dynamics, the stress of traveling or shopping, the pain of isolation and loneliness, or conflict arising in partnerships and families... Here are some tips on how to manage and get through it with a few less bumps and bruises.

Dec 16, 2024
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Nov 19, 2024
Re-pair (Repair) Your Relationship
Nov 19, 2024

When partners are “paired”, like Bluetooth devices, they are connected.  When there's a problem, partners get disconnected and they need to re-pair. It usually takes a minute. Here are the most important guidelines for re-pairing (repairing) injuries.

Nov 19, 2024
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Nov 8, 2024
What is falling in love?
Nov 8, 2024

Falling in love in our culture is a very powerful romantic ideal.  For better or for worse, it has informed our ideas about relationships, and what they should look like, what we should expect and how we go about finding a partner. 

Nov 8, 2024
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Oct 21, 2024
Why You Shouldn't Wait For Major Problems To Try Couples Therapy
Oct 21, 2024

Let’s relabel couples therapy as something like relationship training. I mean it seems obvious to take some sort of training in anything you want to do halfway decently. Why not do that with one of the most important things in your life, your relationship, family, or marriage?

Oct 21, 2024
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