Why do certain people create such powerful chemistry? Sometimes what feels like attraction may also reflect familiar relational patterns operating outside our conscious awareness.
What Is the Spark Between Two People?
Can Attraction Grow Over Time?
Why Some People Feel So Compelling (And What Your Nervous System May Recognize)
How My Approach to Dating and Therapy Can Help If You’re Feeling Stuck
A lot of people reach out for support at a point where dating has started to feel confusing, discouraging, or just plain exhausting because something about the experience keeps repeating. My approach to dating helps you learn where you get stuck and what patterns you may have been repeating, unconsciously.
Why You React So Strongly When You Get Triggered in Dating and Relationships
There are moments in dating and relationships where you get stuck. You get triggered. Something gets said, done, or neglected…and suddenly, you feel it. You feel the contraction inside, the shutting down–or the spark of fire. These are places that need our attention and we can learn to work through them with less negative consequences—to us and others.
The Difference Between Attraction and Availability
Why “Chemistry” Isn’t a Reliable Dating Strategy
Chemistry, on its own, is a surprisingly unreliable guide when it comes to building a healthy, lasting relationship. Most of us were never taught how to tell the difference between chemistry of genuine connection and chemistry of nervous system activation. And in modern dating culture that distinction matters more than ever.




