Dating apps have changed everything. With a single swipe, you can signal interest in a stranger you know virtually nothing about. Another swipe, and you’ve moved on. Again. Again. Again.

If you're exhausted by dating, you're not alone. You’re not broken, unworthy, or hopeless—though I know it can feel that way. You’re likely grieving. And that grief is often unspoken, unacknowledged, and misunderstood.

You meet someone. They’re magnetic. Interesting. There’s a spark. You feel the pull—you’re excited, maybe even a little lit up inside.

Fast forward a few weeks or months: they’re emotionally unavailable, avoidant, inconsistent, or something just feels off.

You lock eyes with someone across the room. Your stomach flutters. They smile, and you’re lit up—nervous, alive, pulled in. You tell your friend, “I don’t know what it is, but the chemistry is insane.”

If you’ve read all the dating tips, downloaded every app, and feel like you’re doing everything “right”—but still find yourself stuck, frustrated, or hurt—you’re not alone.

If you’ve ever stared at your phone, replaying a confusing message—or no message at all—and thought, What am I doing wrong?, you’re not alone…

Falling in love in our culture is a very powerful romantic ideal.  For better or for worse, it has informed our ideas about relationships, and what they should look like, what we should expect and how we go about finding a partner. 

Have you ever wondered why, even after learning dating tips and reading dating books, you keep ending up in the same laundry cycle with dates and relationships?  Here are a few dating tips from a Spiritual Psychology point of view.

Imagine yourself sitting in a coffee shop with one of your friends and you catch a glimpse of the person who walks in. You just can’t help but notice how attractive they are. Do you ever wonder what’s really going through your head during those moments?