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Bart Hatler, MFT, San Francisco, California

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Little Lessons On Growing Love

San Francisco’s Best Advice About Creating Amazing Relationships And All Things RELATED

Bart Hatler
December 27, 2019
Couples, EFT

Holiday Stress Survival Guide: 6 Practical Tips for Protecting Your Relationship

Bart Hatler
December 27, 2019
Couples, EFT

When tensions are running high during the holidays, you might take out your frustrations on your partner, or you may notice that they’ve been doing the same to you.

Bart Hatler
October 23, 2019
Dating

How to Overcome the Brutal Realities of Online Dating Anxiety

Bart Hatler
October 23, 2019
Dating

It seems like everyone is giving online dating a shot these days. This can cause anxiety. Whatever it is that makes you nervous, here’s how to deal with the anxieties connected to online dating.

Bart Hatler
October 20, 2019

Navigating the Crazy Dating Scene in San Francisco: 3 Reasons You Need a Dating and Relationship Therapist

Bart Hatler
October 20, 2019

Although San Francisco is a vibrant, bustling city, it’s also a uniquely difficult place to find a long term partner.

Bart Hatler
October 10, 2019
Dating

Dating In SF: How to Find True Love...Not Just Sex

Bart Hatler
October 10, 2019
Dating

Forget running into a special someone at the grocery store or meeting in line at a coffee shop. Everyone out here is busy swiping left and right on Tinder, Bumble or The League! Here’s how to find true love in SF, Silicon Valley and anywhere in between (not just sex).

Bart Hatler
September 7, 2019
Dating

Information-Age Dating App Irriatations: Consider the Pros and Cons

Bart Hatler
September 7, 2019
Dating

Sure, dating apps are convenient. But, sometimes, it seems like these apps can make the modern dating scene even more complicated. Here’s a breakdown of the pros and cons of dating apps.

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Bart Hatler
September 1, 2019
Dating

Dating As a Career-Driven Professional – The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Bart Hatler
September 1, 2019
Dating

Being a career-driven person might make you feel like you have to choose between your job and your love life. Here’s the good, the bad, and the ugly of modern romance for career-driven professionals.

Bart Hatler
August 24, 2019
Dating

The Reality of Dating in San Francisco: Why Is It So Annoyingly Hard?!

Bart Hatler
August 24, 2019
Dating

Dating is tougher in some cities than others. If you’ve ever complained about the San Francisco dating scene, you’re not alone! Here’s what makes dating in San Francisco so uniquely frustrating.

Bart Hatler
August 12, 2019
Dating

Are You Shooting Your Dating Life in the Foot--or Worse?!

Bart Hatler
August 12, 2019
Dating

Are you sick and tired of dating or relationships that don't work. Do you get sick and tired of meeting the wrong kind of person…the one’s that Don’t. Work. Out?  Ok, ready for this: Are YOU actually avoiding intimacy by pursuing certain types? 

Bart Hatler
October 15, 2018
Couples

The Right Way to Say, “I’m Sorry.”

Bart Hatler
October 15, 2018
Couples

In relationship it’s inevitable that we’ll step on each other’s toes and have different needs that conflict.  And it’s likely we’ll want or need different things at the same time.  When this happens, the situation is ripe for conflict, hurt and disappointment. So, when the dust has settled, how do you repair? 

Bart Hatler
October 4, 2018
Couples

5 Questions That Create Happy Relationships

Bart Hatler
October 4, 2018
Couples

Not everyone is super skilled or comfortable with “real” communication.  Here are five quick questions to help you out.

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Jul 4, 2025
Dating Problems Aren’t Always About Strategy—They’re About Psychology
Jul 4, 2025

If you’ve read all the dating tips, downloaded every app, and feel like you’re doing everything “right”—but still find yourself stuck, frustrated, or hurt—you’re not alone.

Jul 4, 2025
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Jun 20, 2025
What If We Keep Having the Same Argument?
Jun 20, 2025

You’ve had this argument before—maybe ten, maybe a hundred times. One of you gets triggered. The other reacts. Then things spiral—again…

Jun 20, 2025
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Jun 6, 2025
If You Don’t Set Relationship Principles, Anti-Principles Will Run the Show
Jun 6, 2025

Most couples don’t actively decide how they want to treat each other. But here’s the problem: if you don’t create relationship principles on purpose, anti-principles will take over.

Jun 6, 2025
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May 30, 2025
What Am I Doing Wrong? I'm So Frustrated With My Dating Life
May 30, 2025

If you’ve ever stared at your phone, replaying a confusing message—or no message at all—and thought, What am I doing wrong?, you’re not alone…

May 30, 2025
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May 16, 2025
Is It Too Late to Save Our Relationship?
May 16, 2025

“I think we waited too long.” But here’s the thing I’ve seen again and again in couples therapy most of the time, it’s not too late. It’s just that the old strategies have stopped working, and no new ones have taken their place—yet.

May 16, 2025
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Apr 18, 2025
What Do We Do When One Person Wants Sex and the Other Doesn’t?
Apr 18, 2025

One partner wants sex or wants it more often. The other doesn’t feel ready, interested, or safe enough to connect that way in the moment, or for longer.  But it doesn’t have to be a make or break issue for the relationship.

Apr 18, 2025
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Dec 16, 2024
Getting Through The Holidays Unscathed
Dec 16, 2024

While the happiest time of the year it may be for some, unfortunately, the holidays can also bring up a lot for many of us. Whether it's visiting family, getting pulled into old roles and dynamics, the stress of traveling or shopping, the pain of isolation and loneliness, or conflict arising in partnerships and families... Here are some tips on how to manage and get through it with a few less bumps and bruises.

Dec 16, 2024
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Nov 19, 2024
Re-pair (Repair) Your Relationship
Nov 19, 2024

When partners are “paired”, like Bluetooth devices, they are connected.  When there's a problem, partners get disconnected and they need to re-pair. It usually takes a minute. Here are the most important guidelines for re-pairing (repairing) injuries.

Nov 19, 2024
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Nov 8, 2024
What is falling in love?
Nov 8, 2024

Falling in love in our culture is a very powerful romantic ideal.  For better or for worse, it has informed our ideas about relationships, and what they should look like, what we should expect and how we go about finding a partner. 

Nov 8, 2024
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Oct 21, 2024
Why You Shouldn't Wait For Major Problems To Try Couples Therapy
Oct 21, 2024

Let’s relabel couples therapy as something like relationship training. I mean it seems obvious to take some sort of training in anything you want to do halfway decently. Why not do that with one of the most important things in your life, your relationship, family, or marriage?

Oct 21, 2024
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Bart Hatler, MFT - Relationship Therapist, 870 Market Street, Ste. 451, San Francisco, CA, 94102, United States415 797 8297contact@barthatler.com

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