Our childhood experiences can influence who we’re attracted to in ways we may not consciously recognize. Understanding these patterns can help us become more aware of what draws us toward particular people.
Why do certain people create such powerful chemistry? Sometimes what feels like attraction may also reflect familiar relational patterns operating outside our conscious awareness.
Why do we feel an immediate spark with some people and not others? This article explores what romantic chemistry may be telling us—and what it can't tell us about a potential relationship.
Many people struggle with the dilemma of liking someone, but not feeling strong romantic chemistry. Is this a problem? Are there are any solutions to this confusing experience? What kinds of chemistry can we look for when dating?
We have all heard that you’ll “know” when you feel that spark…but is that really the thing all of our hopes and dreams should be riding on? Especially when that spark can be so unreliable? I think there are other things that are better indicators of whether a person or a relationship are likely to be good for us. Read more to find out what.
When one of you want to talk and the other wants space, do you know what each person's reactions are trying to accomplish? Do you know how each is trying to create a greater sense of emotional safety, but that it gets totally misunderstood. If you'd like support slowing these conversations down and building a different way of relating to one another, I'd be glad to connect.
There are moments in dating and relationships where you get stuck. You get triggered. Something gets said, done, or neglected…and suddenly, you feel it. You feel the contraction inside, the shutting down–or the spark of fire. These are places that need our attention and we can learn to work through them with less negative consequences—to us and others.
Most couples don’t sit down and create a shared code of conduct for how they want to treat each other—especially when things get hard. And yet, every couple has operating principles, whether they’re spoken or not.
Some are intentional and strengthening, and then there are the anti-principles—the unconscious agreements or tolerated behaviors that slowly erode trust, intimacy, and safety over time.
