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Bart Hatler, MFT, San Francisco, California

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October 23, 2026
Dating
Bart Hatler
Emotionally Unavailable Partners: Why We're ...

Why are we sometimes drawn to people who can't give us the relationship we want? Explore how familiar patterns and fears of intimacy can influence attraction.

Emotionally Unavailable Partners: Why We're Drawn to Them
October 16, 2026
Dating
Bart Hatler
What Your Attraction Template Says About Your ...

Why are we repeatedly attracted to certain kinds of people? Your Attraction Template can help reveal the patterns, experiences, and relational dynamics that shape who feels compelling to you.

What Your Attraction Template Says About Your Love Life
October 9, 2026
Dating
Bart Hatler
How Childhood Experiences Shape Who We’re ...

Our childhood experiences can influence who we’re attracted to in ways we may not consciously recognize. Understanding these patterns can help us become more aware of what draws us toward particular people.

How Childhood Experiences Shape Who We’re Attracted To
October 2, 2026
Dating
Bart Hatler
Why Familiar Often Feels Like Chemistry

Why do certain people create such powerful chemistry? Sometimes what feels like attraction may also reflect familiar relational patterns operating outside our conscious awareness.

Why Familiar Often Feels Like Chemistry
September 25, 2026
Dating
Bart Hatler
What Is the Spark Between Two People?

Why do we feel an immediate spark with some people and not others? This article explores what romantic chemistry may be telling us—and what it can't tell us about a potential relationship.

What Is the Spark Between Two People?
Bart Hatler
January 15, 2020
Dating

Dating in the City vs. Dating in the Burbs: Pros and Cons to Looking for Love Outside of San Francisco

Bart Hatler
January 15, 2020
Dating

Life in San Francisco seems to move at a mile a minute. The idea of going on dates with a couple of different people over the course of one weekend and bouncing between several social gatherings on a Saturday night seems pretty normal.

Bart Hatler
January 8, 2020
Dating

Romantic Relationships Are NOT the Key to Happiness! -- 5 Ways to Be Happily Single

Bart Hatler
January 8, 2020
Dating

When you’re single, you might find yourself looking around and seeing nothing but happy couples. But is romantic love really the pinnacle of happiness? Here are five ways to be happily single and embrace the art of flying solo.

Bart Hatler
January 1, 2020
Dating, EFT

Dating Intelligence: How Knowing Your Attachment Style Could Be an Advantage

Bart Hatler
January 1, 2020
Dating, EFT

Your attachment style describes, predicts and makes sense of how you relate to others in dating and intimate relationships. Here’s how knowing your attachment style can help you find the right person.

Bart Hatler
December 27, 2019
Dating

What’s Your Dating Intelligence Quotient (D-IQ)?

Bart Hatler
December 27, 2019
Dating

Do you know how you score on a D-IQ (Intelligence Quotient for Dating) test? Here are some basic dating tips to help you with your D-IQ. 

Bart Hatler
December 27, 2019
Couples, EFT

Holiday Stress Survival Guide: 6 Practical Tips for Protecting Your Relationship

Bart Hatler
December 27, 2019
Couples, EFT

When tensions are running high during the holidays, you might take out your frustrations on your partner, or you may notice that they’ve been doing the same to you.

Bart Hatler
October 23, 2019
Dating

How to Overcome the Brutal Realities of Online Dating Anxiety

Bart Hatler
October 23, 2019
Dating

It seems like everyone is giving online dating a shot these days. This can cause anxiety. Whatever it is that makes you nervous, here’s how to deal with the anxieties connected to online dating.

Bart Hatler
October 20, 2019

Navigating the Crazy Dating Scene in San Francisco: 3 Reasons You Need a Dating and Relationship Therapist

Bart Hatler
October 20, 2019

Although San Francisco is a vibrant, bustling city, it’s also a uniquely difficult place to find a long term partner.

Bart Hatler
October 10, 2019
Dating

Dating In SF: How to Find True Love...Not Just Sex

Bart Hatler
October 10, 2019
Dating

Forget running into a special someone at the grocery store or meeting in line at a coffee shop. Everyone out here is busy swiping left and right on Tinder, Bumble or The League! Here’s how to find true love in SF, Silicon Valley and anywhere in between (not just sex).

Bart Hatler
September 7, 2019
Dating

Information-Age Dating App Irriatations: Consider the Pros and Cons

Bart Hatler
September 7, 2019
Dating

Sure, dating apps are convenient. But, sometimes, it seems like these apps can make the modern dating scene even more complicated. Here’s a breakdown of the pros and cons of dating apps.

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Bart Hatler
September 1, 2019
Dating

Dating As a Career-Driven Professional – The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Bart Hatler
September 1, 2019
Dating

Being a career-driven person might make you feel like you have to choose between your job and your love life. Here’s the good, the bad, and the ugly of modern romance for career-driven professionals.

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Emotionally Unavailable Partners: Why We're Drawn to Them
October 23, 2026

Why are we sometimes drawn to people who can't give us the relationship we want? Explore how familiar patterns and fears of intimacy can influence attraction.

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What Your Attraction Template Says About Your Love Life
October 16, 2026
What Your Attraction Template Says About Your Love Life
October 16, 2026

Why are we repeatedly attracted to certain kinds of people? Your Attraction Template can help reveal the patterns, experiences, and relational dynamics that shape who feels compelling to you.

Read more →
October 16, 2026
How Childhood Experiences Shape Who We’re Attracted To
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How Childhood Experiences Shape Who We’re Attracted To
October 9, 2026

Our childhood experiences can influence who we’re attracted to in ways we may not consciously recognize. Understanding these patterns can help us become more aware of what draws us toward particular people.

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Why Familiar Often Feels Like Chemistry
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Why Familiar Often Feels Like Chemistry
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Why do certain people create such powerful chemistry? Sometimes what feels like attraction may also reflect familiar relational patterns operating outside our conscious awareness.

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What Is the Spark Between Two People?
September 25, 2026
What Is the Spark Between Two People?
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Why do we feel an immediate spark with some people and not others? This article explores what romantic chemistry may be telling us—and what it can't tell us about a potential relationship.

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Can Attraction Grow Over Time?
September 18, 2026
Can Attraction Grow Over Time?
September 18, 2026

Many people struggle with the dilemma of liking someone, but not feeling strong romantic chemistry. Is this a problem? Are there are any solutions to this confusing experience? What kinds of chemistry can we look for when dating?

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September 18, 2026
Why Healthy Love Often Feels Less Intense at First
August 7, 2026
Why Healthy Love Often Feels Less Intense at First
August 7, 2026

We have all heard that you’ll “know” when you feel that spark…but is that really the thing all of our hopes and dreams should be riding on? Especially when that spark can be so unreliable? I think there are other things that are better indicators of whether a person or a relationship are likely to be good for us. Read more to find out what.

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August 7, 2026
Why Some People Feel So Compelling (And What Your Nervous System May Recognize)
July 10, 2026
Why Some People Feel So Compelling (And What Your Nervous System May Recognize)
July 10, 2026

Have you ever met someone and felt a strong, curiously compelling attraction? Sometimes we're drawn to someone long before we understand why. Discerning what we’re drawn to can give us more freedom to choose between how much chemistry/attraction and how much compatibility we want.

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July 10, 2026
When One of You Wants to Talk & The Other Wants Space
June 26, 2026
When One of You Wants to Talk & The Other Wants Space
June 26, 2026

When one of you want to talk and the other wants space, do you know what each person's reactions are trying to accomplish? Do you know how each is trying to create a greater sense of emotional safety, but that it gets totally misunderstood. If you'd like support slowing these conversations down and building a different way of relating to one another, I'd be glad to connect.

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June 26, 2026
How My Approach to Dating and Therapy Can Help If You’re Feeling Stuck
May 29, 2026
How My Approach to Dating and Therapy Can Help If You’re Feeling Stuck
May 29, 2026

A lot of people reach out for support at a point where dating has started to feel confusing, discouraging, or just plain exhausting because something about the experience keeps repeating. My approach to dating helps you learn where you get stuck and what patterns you may have been repeating, unconsciously.

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May 29, 2026
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